The creative team at iNTELLYJELLY were talking about how the world in totality and the world around us is filled with an array of people and we are all different in many ways from one another. Our emotions are different, our characters are different and our personalities, although quantifiable into segments, are different too. Life’s experiences and the environment at home can set the pace for how aggressive or how emotional one can get in their day to day dealings. These are extremities, however, one must keep a close watch on the little ones to help mold them into more balanced human beings.
So where does it all go wrong? How does bullying become normal? Do we all understand what bullying is? It is defined as the indirect or direct act of harassing someone, humiliating or making one feel inferior is called bullying. According to a survey held on bullying in our country, a whopping 70% of kids from age 4 to 15 years have suffered bullying. World over, astonishing results have come to notice. 13 million kids a year, fall victim to this grave problem. A recent study revealed that 1 out of 6 young children are harassed or bullied once a week in school. This problem tends to begin at the school level and continues well into adulthood. So, if you are at the receiving end and are being bullied just remember, it is just not your fault. But what you need to ponder about is that, is it entirely the fault of the bully as well?
Bullying can be verbal, emotional, physical and cyber as well. Anybody harassing someone in either of these ways falls under the category of being bullied. Being bullied is the scariest thing for a young child, he/she loses self-confidence in themselves. Such an oppression and injustice severely damages the victims and has adverse effects on them; most common being a change in habits, sleep, anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness and depression. Such kids feel so miserable that they don’t want to socialize anymore and lose their mettle and charisma. They lose interest in activities they used to enjoy.
Identify the bully-
Bullying isn’t a one-size, fit-all phenomenon. There are different types of bullying such as- aggressive, serial, group, indifferent etc. Bullies can be boys or girls, big or small, smart or dull. Age and intellect don’t matter, what matters is realizing a potential bully and why they are doing it. Some bullies use words to hurt their sufferers and some like to hurt them physically. They injure their victims physically or mentally. Such a behavior isn’t normal and requires clinical help. A bully generally bullies because of these reasons- jealousy, insecurity, trying to hide their own imperfections and inabilities, some are redirecting the pain from family issues at home or trouble at school or just to make other people upset about themselves. What one can conclude from this is that although bullying is not a social behavior that is in any form acceptable. Sometimes we need to understand the bully rather than negate the act.
How to identify them?
We, at iNTELLYJELLY India’s best children’s magazine, deal with the most truthful audience, children. Our studies and evaluations are all child-centric. Thus, these pointers will definitely open up the characteristics of a bully for you and would help you in recognizing them,
- Look for the signs of power– Such children believe that they are supreme, or they feel they are good at sports, studies or come from prominent families. One can see a strong sense of contempt especially when they speak to others that they feel are beneath them.
- Keep an eye open to outbursts of aggression– Many times, a bully has emotion management trouble especially with anger. They shout loudly and don’t give others a chance to talk. Look out for such kids who behave hostile consistently, they use bullying as a tool to get what they want.
- Kids who are enclosed by gossip and drama– With some bullies comes drama, spreading rumors, tension, and anxiety. They spread stories and lie about their victims. Few situational examples are mean girls, frenemies, fake friends etc. Many times such kids take the way of bullying to maintain top position on the social ladder.
What can be done?
iNTELLYJELLY feels a bully won’t stop until he/she is addressed. Tell your teachers, parents or friends if you are being bullied and don’t take it all on your own because more often one tends to realize, a bully needs more help than the one who is being bullied. A bully is definitely wrong but a silent witness and silent victim are wrong too. Help the people who are being bullied and those who are being bullied by their internal problems. As much as a person being bullied needs your help, a bully needs it too.
More on bullying coming up in next articles.
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